Surrendering Control

I really want to tell you this.

I really want this to sink in.

For you.

For me.

This has been on my heart, blatantly said to me as well, and as a result left me completely in this place of ponder, wonder and –


I rarely feel totally out of control.

Control and me go way back.

But the control switched in form years ago once I learned the secret to life:

switching the control from your external life (trying to control the things that happen outside of your control: other people’s thoughts, feelings and actions) to your internal life (taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings & the actions you control, etc.)

And, I did good with it.

I mean, I did good on making the switch.

I’m queen self-control internally.

No seriously, I am.

To a fault though.

It’s good.

I have amazing habits.

My writing, working out, all the “deeds”, all the actions.

In business, relationships, writing, body….

I am good at and very conscious about my habits – they are all well researched deeds I do – like why I wake up at 4:30am (originally that took some convincing, but my life is much better for it!)

BUT THIS is about a shift away from controlling the external and the internal and giving the control completely away to God (or away from the self and trusting more fully God – more deeper, more fully, more completely – there’s always that next layer, next level of trusting.)

HOWEVER, part of the reason I do these deeds and take these actions is because maybe, just maybe I want to control the results!

Clearly the reason and motivation for doing anything is to obtain a specific result, but obviously life doesn’t work that way.

Sometimes, doing the deeds, the actions, the habits DON’T lead to the results you want, and I know why.

I had this major A-HA moment (I get them daily really – that’s what happens when you ask God to reveal Himself to you) where I realized, again, but with a slightly different twist – lime versus lemon stuff…


This has been my life.

Checking all the boxes especially this year (Day 239 of a perfect iWatch Ring Closing – for all my ring closer’s out there… I get you!)

Trying to do lots on my own – even with help of people and I have amazing support in my life, but still holding on to the results.


And I want to share this with you – things that have happened to me specifically in my lifetime, if not this year:

  • buying property, doing all the right things, due diligence and even having 20 – 50% equity in the property and it being a COMPLETE failure
  • buying investments, again same sue diligence, and then fraud or mismanagement – completely out of your control and the investment is worth nothing
  • working out, eating right – not losing a pound for over 8 months
  • doing all the “healthy” habits and STILL getting sick
  • having the perfect resume and not getting a job
  • doing all the education to think that will bring the confidence and it doesn’t (do you get that? You can go to Harvard and still struggle with confidence! Cause I have deep talks with people who struggle with confidence and went to Harvard! And I have a LOT of education and it still doesn’t bring confidence.)


I feel so often like I’m the biggest loser on the planet.

Failure really.

And I could go on and on… but that covers some of the bases, I mean I didn’t even open up the relationship can of worms.

We can’t control the HUMANS at all, despite handing out the instruction manual – our instruction manual, which clearly lays out how others should act around us and towards us – which always seems to be thrown out with the original packaging… hmmm, don’t worry, I’ll forward you a PDF copy to send out to all your people…

Summarized as follows:

  • Love me (they don’t)
  • Be nice (they don’t)
  • Communicate well (they don’t)
  • Hug often (they don’t)
  • Laugh easily (they don’t)
  • Say “I’m sorry” (they don’t)
  • Forgive easily (they don’t)

MAN – if everyone went by my instruction book for them the world would be a much better place. Right?!?!

Like, what is up with people that don’t like us?

What is up with people that don’t like me? HELLOOOOOO – I’m nice!

**completely baffled**

The thing is that THEY are allowed to choose whatever they want.

They can choose to hate you for the color of your skin, the color of your hair, your snorting laugh, your car, how much money you do or don’t have, your nail polish color, the stretch-marks on your stomach…

So, PEOPLE and RESULTS, out of our control.

We know this.

But where the big A-HA moment was for me is that I’m still letting all the external things affect my self-worth.

I’m like this in my brain – pleading with God:

“God, I’ve done everything right and it’s still sucking.”


It’s the shift from:


(Most people spend their life still trying to control all the things outside of them and never get to a place of full surrender. I will say that internal control, also known as self-control is so important.)

So, AND THIS IS IMPORTANT! – does this mean that I should stop taking all the actions and doing the deeds to get a desired result?

Should I stop full bore and say, “Well, hey, this didn’t work for me and now, I give up?”


This is the time to surrender more fully.

This is the time to receive more fully.

This is the time to give more fully.

This is the time – when all the chips are down, all the bets are on the table, all the balls are with the other team, balls in the other court –

When you have done all you can do and you’ve got no other cards to play –

When you are SPENT –

When you have given it YOUR all –

To Let Go & Let God.

Be at peace.

I’m at peace today, here, in this moment.

And that’s the goal.

Be at peace.

You can’t get everything you ever wanted without it.

And keep returning to that place of peace when all the control is out of your hands and live in that wonder, the mystery, the joy of the possibilities that lie ahead – the magic about to unfold but you have no idea what that looks like – that is when you…

Live Your Legacy.

xx Lisa


Figuring Out What You Want

Figuring Out What You Want

Here’s literally the hardest question you will have to answer in your life:

What do I want out of life?




And it changes – the answer will constantly evolve –


For today –

For this season of your life – what do you want?


How do you get to the place where you have a good enough answer to that question?

I sat pondering this yesterday.

I know what I want, but then somedays – I have no clue.

I wake up with amnesia as to what I’m actually doing and why I’m doing it.

Figuring out your WHY will be something you do more than once – in fact – you have to do it everyday.

You have to resell yourself on your dreams every damn day.

This isn’t some one-time-at-a-Tony-Robbins-Event-I-figured-out-my-why-and-now-I’m-set-for-life thing.

This is a dynamic thing.

Not static.

Constantly evolving.

And constantly being created by you.

Created and re-created in your head a billion times before it manifests itself the way you visualized.

We know the how: praying, the mantras, the visualizations, the re-writing your goals a million times in a journal.

But what exactly is it we want?

Remember it’s really all feeling that we are chasing.

For me personally, feeling proud of accomplishing something big and showing others they too can step out and dream bigger dreams.

But I didn’t know that for years.

I had no clue for years what I really wanted.

I had to ask for what it was that I wanted.

Meaning, I asked God to help direct what it is that will make this life full of achievement AND fulfillment AND service to others.

I figure it out by my emotional guidance system – by feeling my way through it.

What feels good to me: do more of.

What feels bad to me: do less of.

Simple, right.

But we make it so complicated.

I mean, you can trick yourself into thinking something feels good to you, but you know the result will be total garbage, leaving you feeling bad – enter: too much of anything really… (drugs, sex, alcohol, George Clooney and my favorite – Chocolate)

The bigger issue is you can trick yourself into thinking the good or fun stuff is actually what you need to be doing – but maybe it isn’t.

Maybe even the good stuff isn’t your calling.

You need to listen to the pit of your stomach, your solar plexus, your heart, God – whatever that looks like for you.

You know you aren’t taking the proper time to listen when you feel lost and don’t know what you want.

This takes practice.

Delving into the world of what you desire is a skill.

Yeah, a skill.

Meaning, you don’t just accidentally fall into the life of your dreams!

It takes a little effort on our parts.

You need to exercise that muscle of seeking and knowing what you want.

This takes quiet time – stillness – all the time, everyday.

To tune in.

You get the downloads when your brain is quiet and open to receive what it is you are supposed to receive.

You don’t receive when you are go-go-go all the time and making busy just to be busy.

You receive when your mind is at ease and fully relaxed.

Figuring out what you want is all about the receiving what it is that you desire from soul – not from just your mind.

It’s when mind and soul and heart work together –

That’s your HELL YES!

That’s you wanting to…

Live Your Legacy!

xx Lisa


Get OUT of your FUNK

Get Out Of Your Funk

When you are miserable and depressed it’s usually because of a combination of 2 things:

  • You aren’t doing what you are called to be doing
  • You are only focused on yourself

So, really both of those is the same thing.

Let me explain.

When you are doing what you are called to be doing you are of service to others.

Being called to do your gifts is of service to others.

I don’t care if you are a painter, the most amazing wake-surfer, best video-gamer, top business man or you knit cute-adorable mittens for kittens –

What ever it is that you are called to do – Whatever it is that lights you up and makes you feel alive – is being of service to others and at the same time you are helping others you are not focused on yourself or your pity-party.

Do you get that?

You can’t be helping and serving in a true manner while being fully concerned with yourself.

Helping and True Selfishness can’t co-exist at the same time.

Doing what lights you up IS not selfish – just so we are clear.

Doing what you are called to do IS what will bring you JOY and get you outta your rut.

It’s the cure for depression.

Helping Yourself find the thing that lights you up that you can then share with the world IS THE CURE for all the STUFF you are going through.

Did you hear that? Did it resonate? Let me say it again.


But you have to share it.

You have to share with the world, tell your story, show & tell what you created, sell your goods, help the people.

It’s no good hidden.

***CUE: This Little Light of Mine***

Sharing is caring – like they say, but even more than that, the more we share the more we are able to lift the depression, the stress, and inspire others.

Share your depression, if nothing else. Share that you don’t even know where your depression is coming from. Share that you are getting loads of help and it’s still not helping. Share. Share. Share.

Encouragement is not you standing there TELLING everyone how to be.

Encouragement is you standing there telling everyone your story – how you failed, how you succeeded, how you are working on this or that – that’s how you inspire and encourage the people around you.

You don’t tell them to do stuff.

No one likes to be told to do stuff.

You say, “Hey, look, I messed up. I suck. I’m sorry and here’s how I’m changing my life – here’s how I’m taking responsibility for this and turning my life around.”




That stuff resonates so deeply within us and stirs the emotions within us.

You sharing your stuff. You sharing from the heart is the vulnerability.

That’s the stuff people are drawn too. (There’s a business marketing hint for free – you’re welcome.)

People resonate with people who are imperfect.

That’s how you step in your power – but admitting you are who you are in all your crappy glory.

When you aren’t doing the above, you are breaking agreements with yourself.

That leads to depression and it’s usually because you are so focused on you and how much integrity you lack with yourself.

90% of the time (if not 100%), you are blaming the outside world when it actually has nothing to do with the outside world, it is all due to the game you got going on in your head.

As I alluded to last week, this is why being able to self-coach yourself off a ledge is so important. This is why you need to learn how to shift out of the bad stuff faster so you can get to the place where you can be of service faster.

When you don’t self-coach, you are binging on all the bad feelings and thoughts – my life sucks, shame, guilt, fear, I suck – dining out on a whole BONANZA BUFFET of SHIT SANDWICHES – and STAYING there until your belt buckle is fully undone and pants have dropped to the floor.

And then it plays out in your physical life and you physically binge on Netflix, food, wine, all the binge-worthy things in efforts to make your bad feelings go away.

Self-medicating won’t do it.

I will even go as far as to say that western medicine won’t even solve this.

This problem, you guy, listen up…

This problem is that you are not LIVING YOUR PURPOSE and SHARING IT.

End of story.


Don’t beleive me, then try it.

If you aren’t ECSTATIC when you do the thing you are meant to do, maybe you aren’t doing the right thing.



The thing that lights you up makes you the lighthouse.

Be the lighthouse.

All the other ships will be drawn to you.

Live YOUR life.

Live YOUR legacy.

Stop living for anything else but for the thing that lights you up and share like CRAZY.

You’ll feel better.

You’ll change lives.

You’ll make an impact.

You’ll help heal others.

You’ll maybe even make a BOAT load of money.

But most of all, you WILL…

Live Your Legacy!

xx L

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Ready To Do The Big Thing?

Ready To Do The Big Thing

There are always reasons for your struggles.


Even when it feels like the whole world is against you.

That God is against you.

Maybe the reasons won’t be revealed to you unless you ask them to be?

Maybe they never will and maybe the lessons are so obvious they hit you in the head like Donkey Kong.

I’ve learned this.

You can do everything right.

You can check off all the boxes.

You can eat the right diet.

You can run the marathon.

You can do all the due-diligence in the world on your investments.

You can marry the right person.

You can interview people till the cows come home.

You can put in all the right work.

You can even put in all the right energy.


Your body.

Your health.

Your investments.

Your company.

Your real estate.

Your relationships.

PEOPLE are imperfect doing imperfect things in the world.

And we so badly want CERTAINTY.

We crave certainty.

We crave making sure things “work out” in the way we so desire them to work out.

But how can anything be certain in a world where imperfect people are running the show.

In fact, you can do all the right things and still get no results.

And there are a million lessons in there for you to learn.

One lesson is to ask for help.

You did everything right. You tried everything you can.

And you still aren’t getting the results.

Maybe God wants you to ask for help.

Maybe God is asking you to seek Him or your higher self.

Maybe the lesson is putting your pride away.

Maybe your lesson is to learn Gratitude or find miracles in your present moment.

Maybe your lesson is to engage in community by way of asking for help.

There’s a million different reasons things don’t go our way and the best news is that there is always a miracle hidden in that.

Maybe God kept you from an even worse disaster?

There’s always a miracle waiting to be revealed in everything we encounter.

That’s why Saint Paul wrote that trials build perseverance.

Here’s the BIG A-HA I got this week, in an even deeper way.

You will HAVE TO EAT SOME MAJOR SHIT if you are going after a BIG IMPOSSIBLE GOAL.

Aren’t those just the words of hope?!

I’m not saying to expect it to be hard, but don’t be surprised when insurmountable obstacle after insurmountable obstacles come at you when you are out to do the big thing.

To climb the mountain of the thing you want you HAVE TO:

  • go through the Valley
  • face the bears
  • climb through dark caves
  • face millions of tiny annoying bugs
  • forge the path
  • face the battle

You need to do this to get to the top of the mountain.

There is no Gondola.

You have to build the Gondola.

And we quit after the first valley.

There is a reason it is called the wilderness! There are no paths!

You have to step on the prickly thorns and scratch up your legs to find your way through.

I’m not saying it’s hard – I’m saying it MUST BE HARD for your to persevere.

Like, HARD!

Like, crying, tantrums, self-pity, ego crushing, FEELING all the FEELS – HARD!

If it were easy, everybody would have that thing you want and you would not persevere – literally you’d have the thing you wanted and be onto the next goal, something with more of a challenge #truestory!

Why are we all so scared of battles?

Learn how to get good at facing the battles and forging through them to the goal on the other side.

The whole reason for the ‘shit sandwich’ is to build your strength.

It’s to become a warrior in battle.

I know this is why I am where I am.

The more life throws at me, the more strong I get.


The more strong I get, the more I can keep climbing my mountain.

Get it?

If you are a leader (hint: you are) and your life is on easy street, you will never be able to make the impact you want to make – no one resonates with someone who never overcame anything and life was handed to them on a silver spoon!

If you are a leader and not doing the hard work, you aren’t leading.

The hard work can be fun. I’m not saying it’s all bad, I’m just saying that if you choose to climb the mountain of any goal or worthwhile endeavor, then it’s your responsibility to yourself not to quit when the first obstacle comes around.

And it will.

The trials are inevitable.


Are you willing to go eat more shit sandwiches to get what you really want?

Are you REALLY willing to go through the tough times to get what you want?

Are you really ready to lay down your life for your goals and the desires of your heart?

Are you really ready to turn off Netflix for them?

Are you really ready to sacrifice for them?

Are you really ready to do your life in a BIG WAY?

Are you really ready to…

Live Your Legacy?

xx L

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The Fastest Way To Miracles

The Fastest Way To Miracles

Yesterday I was confronted with life.

Head on.

This happens to us.

All the time.


Something comes out and bites you in the ass.

Your relationships. Your business. Your money. Your health.

Something that you never thought would happen to you.

But it did.

Now, how are you coping with that?

Do you have a set of self-coaching tools you can pull out and work through whatever life throws at you?

Besides breathing, deep conscious breathing (which literally takes the sting off most issues and relaxes your parasympathetic nervous system) the other thing I like to do is what Taylor Swift does, “Shake It Off!”

Literally shake my whole body and release the negative until I feel a shift.

I look like Elaine from Seinfeld dancing! YIKES!

Side note: So many of our dis-ease in the body is due to energy stuck because it had no place to go and moving & breathing it through your body helps dissipate those blocks – says all the research I’ve ever done on this, and I personally find this to be true for me.

So, yesterday I did this.

And then, I pulled out my next tool.

The one where you talk to your brain and get it to tell you why you are:

  • hysterical?
  • freaking out?
  • what’s the worst case scenario?
  • why are you fearing this?
  • does this really matter?

And the answer always comes up the same.

I have no control over what happens externally to me.

God is in control. The universe will have it’s way with me and then I always come back to that deep belief that everything is happening for my highest purpose.

And let me tell you, as you already know – when you are in the thick of it, it’s very hard to see that everything happens for your highest purpose.



Letting go.

Not holding on so tight.

Letting go and letting God take over.

And every time I do that, I get a miracle.

I can not begin to tell you how many times I’ve thought I was ruined.

Like life over, ruined.

Many times.

In all areas of my life.

You’ve been there too.

It’s really a dark and horrible place to be.

You were not called to live in pain, in darkness, in those horrible places – those are not from God, the universe.

If you are there right now, my dear friend, then you have to know that this is not why you were put here on the earth.

You were called to take that pain, that anger and transform it into something incredible and abundant – seriously – THAT is the miracle of life.


A shift in perception.

I think it’s not that this “bad” stuff won’t happen to you, it will – over and over and over again.


I think the biggest gift and goal is self-awareness, identifying the pain/fear and moving through faster to get back to your “peace”.

When your “peace” is disturbed by the things out of your control you feel unsettled and all the feelings pour in to begin the massive downward spiral.

Feeling are great to help us identify what’s happening and what the thoughts are that are creating those feelings, but the real gift is how fast you can shift.

I’m going to be blunt with you.

What used to take me weeks, months, years to get over – now takes me minutes. (And that took me years to figure out – unfortunately for me, I wish I learned this at age 8!)

Part of the key in creating something that will blow your mind, something amazing in your life, is being able to shift speedily through the shit.

The longer you dwell on the “bad things” that are happening to you, the longer it will take for God to work through you, because when you are stuck, the Universe can’t work it’s magic.

You have to unstuck yourself.

The faster you can do this, the faster you can attract and manifest the life you want to live.

The faster you can see miracles appear in your life.

If you want to hold on to your pain, your grudge, your anger, your frustration – the longer it will take for miracles to work in your life.

It’s just the way it is.

I’m also not saying don’t feel you pain. FEEL IT! Feel it GOOD! Feel all the feels and be okay with the pain.

Pain and all the bad emotions do serve you, but not when they drag on.

You are allowed your moments of screaming.

But you also know staying there is what ultimately hurts you and no one else.

Next time life throws you some shit-pie, make sure you have a plan to work through it. Make the plan while you are in good-spirits.

Practice it.

Learn it.

Study it.

Being able to move swiftly through your anger, your pain, your frustration allows you to create peace for yourself and spread that over to others.

You have the power to create all the desires of your heart.

Which is the power to….

Live Your Legacy.

xx Lisa

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Desired Desire

Desired Desire

Desire has gotten a bad rap.

Parents, Schools, Society, Churches, Communities – you name it – has basically slapped your hand every time you desired something that desire itself is now considered a BAD thing.

It’s crazy because the only way you will ever accomplish something great is if you have a burning desire for something.

If you don’t, you’ll quit.

Desire is crucial to going after your dreams.

And yet, we are all so quick to push our desires away.

We PUSH them hard.

And to make it worse we are filled with so much shame, guilt and unhappiness for even having the slightest inkling desire for something.

You are made wrong for wanting love, good looks, fame or lots of money.

We push desire away from us instead of allowing it in.

This is key.

Allow your desire.

Your desire is from God.

No seriously.

***I’m not saying everyone is connected at this level, but you and I know that when you get right down to your deepest desire – past the ice cream, fast-food and sex with George Clooney, that’s where your deepest desires from God sit – sadly, we know most people won’t dig deep enough and most people spend their whole lives fulfilling instant desires and never explore their deepest desires.***

Your REAL desire is from GOD.

The problem is that most of us were programmed not to ALLOW our heart’s desires.

I realized last week in a conversation with my girlfriend that we as women are so quick to dismiss our desires and think they aren’t good enough.

The reason you have regrets in your life is only because you didn’t allow fully for your heart’s self-expression.

You denied God.

You denied yourself to be all that you can be and deep down you know that’s true.

But here’s the good news.

You can change that.

You can choose to listen to your hearts desire.

You can choose to allow what God placed on your heart to manifest in your life.

From wanting to be a ballerina, to being a singer, to running your own business, to having your dream relationship, to running a vineyard and making wine, to opening a B&B, to being a mom, to being a famous author, to being a famous Hollywood director – whatever that desire is for you.

It’s never too late.

It’s just not.

If the desire is there – it’s your responsibility to listen to it!


Take it seriously.

Don’t ask for others opinions.

State your intentions between you and God.

Don’t let others or even yourself talk you out of it.

You are on a mission.

Follow that desire.

The thing that completely lights you up.

Know that your desires are good enough.

I’m going to tell you a secret.

Your life will never be AMAZING, AWESOME, FANTASTIC until you do the thing that turns you on.

Lean in to your desires.

Desired Desires!

Are you doing the thing that’s turning you on?

If not,

do it.

‘Cause that’s when you….

Live Your Legacy.

xx L


Tapping Into Your Power

Tapping Into Your Power

Everything you do has a consequence.


You know, the Newton thing.

For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

For you, there are consequences for your actions.

Good, Bad, Beautiful & Ugly.

It’s what you intend them to be.

Intentions. Set Clearly.

Did you know that you have the power to turn around every bad situation in your life single-handedly?

Did you know you have that power?

I find it really incredible that humans in general still don’t realize that they already possess this super-secret power!

Literally billions of people walking the earth not knowing they are able to access a super secret power! It’s like living in a ZOMBIE Marvel movie – where we, the zombies, haven’t woke up to our power yet!

Some people might know they have this power but forget to use it most of the time or they literally don’t realize the power that has been bestowed on them.

What’s this magic power?

The power of taking every THING that happens to you and turning it into something good, something made with love, something awesome & amazing!

What if in this moment you could take all your worry, all your pain, all your stress and disappear it magically into something good?

You have that power within you.


Do you know this? I mean REALLY know this?

Do you know that this SUPER POWER is available to you?

How do you activate it? Access it?

It’s actually simple.

  • You love. (Love solves all things!)
  • You do everything out of a place of love.
  • You find the ways to see things differently from others.
  • You trust that everything & every situation is really for your highest good – a lesson you were here to learn in this lifetime.
  • You purposely look for the good in everything. (And it’s there – you have to look hard sometimes!)
  • You forgive.
  • You set the intentions that it’s all meant to be and serves a greater purpose.
  • You see others with incredible compassion in YOUR eyes.
  • You don’t expect anything in return.
  • You don’t expect a “sorry”.
  • You don’t expect a “change of heart” from them.
  • You throw out your instruction manual for “them” and let them be “them”.
  • You pour out the love.
  • You remember your past has no bearing on who you are RIGHT NOW!
  • You stop letting your past ROB you from all that you get to create in your future.
  • You ask for help from your never ending source of love & compassion. And never-ending source it is! Tap into it! Pray, Ask, Receive!

The common word in my list above is “YOU”.

This is why this power is YOURS to use, utilize, access, activate.

It’s literally your choice, your decision to turn your world into something amazing.

I meet new people everyday.

I hear their stories.

I hear how they have been done wrong.

I know how hard this is.

I know that right now you are walking through something really awful.

I know that someone did something really awful to you.

I know that things didn’t turn out your way.

I know that things happened outside of anyone’s control, forces of nature.

I also know that you did something really awful to you – cause you are hard on yourself and don’t always treat yourself with LOVE!

It’s hard.

Life does suck and probably 50% of the time – give or take 50%.

I’ll be the first to say it.

We go through that. We have seasons in our lives that are really shitty.

There’s no sugar coating that in any way shape or form.

It’s shit.

And we all have those times in our lives.

But what still amazes me is that after all that we’ve been through and after all the wrong we’ve done to others (cause we have – no one is a pink-perfect unicorn!), we still have a hard time finding compassion for others.

We are still slinging mud at everything.

We comment on everyone’s life, especially people we don’t actually know – like people in the media, famous people – and we still feel we have the right to throw in our two cents as if our judgment will magically make another follow our instruction manual we have laid out FOR THEM.


And yet, this is why you haven’t been able to tap into that power.

Your power.

I know it.

As in, I know why at times I’m unable to access my special super powers.

There’s too much judgement going on in my brain.

There’s too much comparison going on in my brain.

There’s too much woe is me happening inside.

I know this.
You know this.

This also hinders your ability to make money!

This also hinders your growth as a business!

This also hinders your healing.

This also hinders you bringing to fruition all that you desire for you life!

Not being able to live with compassion for your world and your people will not allow you to step into FULL ABUNDANCE.

And, that sucks for you! BIG TIME!

You were created to have life to the FULL.

You were created for FULL ABUNDANCE!

And yet, YOU are the only person hindering you from reaching it.

That’s the biggest blow!

(Yes, I write this to myself!)

I am the one.

You are the one.

I am the one not allowing myself to have everything I ever wanted!

You are the one not allowing yourself to have everything you ever wanted!

The people that are very close to having everything they ever wanted are the people that realize that they are the ONLY problem in this equation and that they have the power to shift and transform their life to full abundance!

The people that are very far away from everything they desire are the people who still believe that it’s everyone else’s problem! That the world owe’s them!

And it’s just like that.

Who’s problem is it?

Your answer to that questions will let you know if you are going to find abundance, happiness, love, peace, deep joy – ALL THE GOOD THINGS!

If you don’t answer that question correctly, then you are certainly setting yourself up for a life of misery, blame, frustration, regret, anger and sadness.

When you realize you have the power to transform your world and you do just that – you……

Live Your Legacy!

xx Lisa


It’s Not Sexy

It's Not Sexy

I had to take a nap yesterday.

Literally, my body was in pain.

I’ve been pushing it hard for over a month, by design, on purpose.

And so I allowed myself a nap.

It was great.

All this to tell you how boring my life is.

It’s not sexy.

And why I’m proud of my boring life.

I’m so laser focused in on 2 goals right now.

2 crazy impossible goals that may or may not ever happen.

But I’m willing to be boring for them to happen!

My girlfriend from Phoenix texted me yesterday.

–> How are you?

I’m at home just working and working out. <–


That was the conversation!

I have nothing of interest to add to any conversation these days.

My head is down.

I’ve been going to work – all year actually.

Minus a few “fun” events sprinkled here and there – my life is boring.

AND here’s why that is great.

EVERYTHING YOU EVER WANTED will come out of some form of routine, habit, on repeat.


And it’s boring.

Repetition is boring.

It’s not glamorous.

It sure ain’t sexy.

The highlight of my life is BUSINESS LUNCHES.

I go to bed at 8 or 9pm every night.

7:30pm if I’m lucky.

(Last night, I got lucky! LOL)

And I wake up and crush out my mornings.

I’ve done more by 8am that most people get done in a business day! #truestory

I’m ‘doing’ a lot and have set BIG EXCITING GOALS for myself.

Do you remember my talk on SMARTER goals?

How the “SMART” goals were never good enough? You needed the E and R to make that acronym work. (You can listen to that podcast here! The E is for energy, meaning bring the energy & feeling to your goals and R is for re-alignment, meaning to make sure your goals still work for you and tune into that all the time – course correct if needed.)

(You can google SMART goals if you don’t know what they are!)

Well this week I have now officially decided to remove most the letters from SMART goals.

Infact, I’m like really getting over the whole acronym thing at a rapid pace!

(There are many different versions of the acronym, but the words realistic, attainable, achievable, time-bound, timed, etc. should be out the window!)

Here’s why:

“R”ealistic is out.

How boring, uninspiring.

Why do you want to set your sights on something “realistic”.

That’s like saying, I’d like to order an “average coffee”.

Who does that?

We don’t want to be average, ordinary, and to be honest, realistic is just that.

Realistic is something that everyone will approve of.

That’s not your goal.

Your goal needs to be IMPOSSIBLE.

It needs to be so big and inspiring and push you to do the BIG CRAZY.

Next, the T.

Timed. Timely. Time-Bound.


Crazy as it is – don’t give God a timeline.

It will never happen on your timeline, it will only happen when the universe deems it will happen.

All you can control is all you can control.

That means, keep taking the action in your control and GIVE UP the result.

You are holding on too tightly to your goals and dreams and desires.

You have to be working on them and in the same breath be really okay if they don’t happen for you.

If you aren’t okay with the outcome, then you will be suffocating your dreams, pushing against them! Trust me.

You are the one pushing all that you want away by wanting it so badly.

Focusing on all you can control will mean setting out to do the daily work on what little steps will get you to where you want to go.

So back to me and my boring life:

  • 60 minutes of cardio a day
  • 100 situps, weights, blah, blah (I’m so bored of it already!)
  • Everyday doing my contacting of clients, prospects, advertising
  • Everyday reviewing the impossible goals until I can feel them and believe them to come true (even when I’m no where near!)
  • Everyday writing, creating content, marketing – it get’s old fast.
  • Going to bed early so I can do that whole list again EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

Like I said.

My life is boring.

I love it and I’m enjoying the introspective side of my life right now.

(I’m a total introvert and absolutely love being alone – which never used to be my thing. I used to be the life of the party – although, that girl will still come out to play once in a while! 🙂 )

I turn down parties. I turn down coffee dates. I turn down lots of ‘FUN’ stuff that doesn’t work with the boring list above. (I even turned down a all-expense paid golf & whitewater trip this summer! BOO!)

And it does kill me sometimes.

But what I’ve gotten so good at over the years is getting over FOMO.

I have ZERO fear of missing out on anything! Business, Fun or otherwise.

I actually want my boring life above all the “events”! That’s some serious 180 – especially from my college days – where I thought I lived for a party!

I think at some point you have to realize that you are your own party. Especially as an entrepreneur! Especially as someone who has BIG dreams and goals.

There is nothing you are going to miss out on and all the choices you make will lead to consequences.

Some good, some bad, and some mind blowing.

But you will never blow your own mind on awesomeness until you stay focused on the big goals and ya, that means doing the hard work, which sometimes means turning down the good-fun-stuff in your life for your bigger vision and to protect your energy.

I’ve talked about this lots, but you know that your ONLY job is to protect your vibe and keep it as high as possible – that’s only if you are serious about attracting into your life your desires as fast as possible.

Other people, other stuff, distractions will pull you out of your happy place so fast and then you are crawling back up a mountain to get back to that place of being in alignment and high vibration with yourself.

It’s way easier just to stay in your happy place from the get-go.

Learn what pulls you out and don’t engage.

(Such as social media!)

(Or let’s be honest here: The Calgary Stampede this week and all the cute skinny 20-year-old tub girls at Cowboys (a bar) – which will make me feel OLD & WRINKLY! #vibecrushing LOL)

I know, I know.

This is a boring post.

That’s the point.

It’s not all glamorous at the top.

It’s not exciting like winning the lottery or like watching reality TV.

Success rarely looks sexy.

For us people in the real world, hitting targets and accomplishing goals has no fanfare, no one claps, very few cheer and you have to be the one to brag about it or no one will even know you accomplished anything great! (And it’s totally okay to brag if you need to!)

And did I mention it’s a lot of grunt work?

Do you want to know why so many people don’t accomplish anything above average?

It’s because they are unwilling to stick with the boring.

They are aiming at average.

They want to sit there and be entertained.

Don’t let that be you.

You get to….

Live Your Legacy.

xx Lisa

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You Can’t Mess It Up

You Can't Mess It Up

You just can’t mess any of it up.

You can’t mess up your life.

You can’t mess up your money.

I sat with one of my gorgeous clients last week who was worried she was going to mess up investing and “do it wrong.”

I talk with friends daily who don’t want to end up with the wrong person, wrong business, wrong job, wrong plans, wrong trips, the wrong life.

This is a COMMON theme amongst us people.

We don’t want to mess up.

We want to get out of life in ONE PIECE.

All pretty and put together.


PSA: People who die in one piece and all put together were BORING! (Sorry-not-sorry!) They probably didn’t live to their potential and died with that as their biggest regret.

The reason you can’t mess up ANYTHING in your life is because every thing that happens to you – good, bad, ugly – (yes, even the ugly yuck that’s happened to you) and ever decision, choice you made, make, or will make in the future is for your highest good.

I would beg of you to take this on as one of your core beliefs as it TOTALLY helps eliminate STRESS, WORRY, FEAR, etc. in your life.

Your life is like a movie and you know that the ending is going to turn out just perfect – but it needed to have all those “mess ups” and “challenges” to overcome so you CAN get to the ending – where it’s okay.

And even if you don’t make the ending okay, it’s still perfect.

People try so hard to help other people from making mistakes.

Parents try so hard to help their kids from making mistakes.

Loving family and friends are always out and want the best for you – again, trying to help throw their 2 cents into your life in order to help you not make mistakes.


Growth, increase and expansion can ONLY happen through “doing it wrong”.

For the most part, the world is not at PEACE with mistakes.

It’s definitely not a widely held belief that ALL THINGS HAPPEN FOR OUR HIGHEST GOOD.

What if all the bad in the world was supposed to be there?

That’s deep soul thing to sit with for a minute.

I’m not saying that ‘bad’ doesn’t need to go, I’m just saying that we use the ‘bad’ to help move humanity forward. Without it, we wouldn’t be where we are today.

The planet has made it this far, it was for our highest good.

We now house the most humans this planet has ever seen.

Something worked.

And there was a lot of bad.

Thousands of years of bad stuff that happened to the humans.

And we made it.

So you are having this life experience right now – right?

You are worried that you are going to make a BIG mistake that you can’t get out of?

Bankruptcy. Go out of Business. Get a disease. Marry the wrong person. Buy the wrong house. Invest in a losing stock. Trust the wrong people.

You maybe aren’t taking the risks necessary to help you achieve your goals in fear of losing it all and messing up your entire life, including those of your partner, kids, parents, etc.

I want to pour out some BIG time grace to you.

You will be okay because all this was your journey.


But that’s the deal we humans got.

There is an expiry date at some point, but until then….

You can’t mess up the life experience that you were called to have.

Isn’t that great news.

You will learn your lesson.

Your lesson may come because:

  • you overspend
  • you underspend
  • you are stingy with your money
  • you blow every last cent you earn plus more
  • you invested in bad real estate
  • you hold on to long
  • you hold on too short
  • you stayed out of obligation
  • you didn’t stay
  • you ran away
  • you didn’t eat right
  • you did eat right and still got sick
  • you didn’t exercise
  • you did exercise

You MUST TRUST that your lessons will be the perfect lessons for you and TRUST that these lessons are here to serve you and help you achieve what you envision for your life!

Repeat after me:

All that is happening right now is for my highest good.

If you can believe that, to your core, without a shadow of a doubt – it will take the STING off of all the shitty things that are happening to you right now.

The money you don’t have. The business that’s sucking. The health challenge right now. The relationship that’s not healthy.


Make peace with where you are at.

Know, with the knowing of the universe, with the PEACE-that-passes-understanding (meaning peace that no human brain should comprehend because it’s from a source greater than you), THAT THIS IS HOW IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE.

It is not easy.

It is not fair.

But it’s how it’s supposed to be.

You can’t make a mistake big enough.

You can’t mess up your life bad enough.

You can’t invest wrong.

You can’t wreck your life – even when you try.

Find peace and know that….

You can’t mess it up.

So that means, you have to….

Take action with faith knowing you can’t mess it up.

Which is essentially what I mean when I say….

Live Your Legacy!

xx L


Distinct You.

Distinct You

It’s been 4 years since I launched this company officially.

6 Years since I started writing – period.

Another 12 years before that of letting this whole thing percolate.

I remember sitting in New York, Kingside, a Midtown cafe, just blocks away from Central Park.

That’s this photo.

Drinking coffee.

Pretending to be confident, but really just procrastinating by trying to make sure everything was perfect for my company launch, if you could call it that.

There were no balloons. (I think all launches deserve balloons!)

Terrified to press “publish”.

I remember the moment I published my first blog and my website went live like it was yesterday. I can actually feel that moment clearly.

Since then I’ve created…

  • 208 Official Blog Posts
  • over 100 Videos
  • 23 Podcast Episodes (plus 12 archived)
  • 5 – YES, 5 online courses completed (which I’m sure you will hear more about…)
  • 10 Hosted Live Events
  • 30+ Professional Speaking Gigs
  • 1 Published Manuscript (aka. STRUT)
  • 2 E-Books
  • 597 Graphics Created (Mostly on Canva)
  • 41 URLS – owned & active
  • 3 WordPress Sites – it was 4, but I let one go and moved the content to Clickfunnels
  • 1 Trademark – “Wealth Spa™”
  • 10 Official CIPO Copyrights to Material I’ve Drummed Up
  • 1 Unpublished Manuscript 66,000 words sitting on my office kitchen counter
  • 6 Professional Photo Shoots of Me (which I actually dislike doing – but love the results!)
  • 1 Office
  • 1 Full Time AmazeWoman Director of My Life #Pam and at least 6 different contractors in various departments
  • 2 more professional designations (for a total of 22 letters behind my name & more to come)
  • 30 pounds (Lost, Gained, Lost, Gained, Lost – BLAH!)
  • HELPED HUNDREDS OF WOMEN! Personal testimonies written to me privately from hundreds of women all across the world! #mindblown

Oh, and while ↑ ALL THAT ↑ was happening “on the side”- taking my regular “Financial Planning Business” and doubling it over the last few years – while having at least 20-50% growth every year since.


It actually feels good to write this out and share it with you.

Maybe – just maybe – when I’m feeling like this WHOLE entrepreneur thing ISN’T working (because that’s what business “FEELS” like all the time) I’ll read this to see just how far I have come in the last 4 years.

I was sitting at church on Sunday.

I remember walking into church in my black stilettos and asking God for a message, for a download.

And in true GOD fashion, He delivered.

Sure, it had NOTHING to do with the sermon, but who cares.

God cares about you and will deliver the “sermons” you need to hear to you directly – not necessarily through your pastor, priest, Rabbi or spiritual guru.

The word. The download.



You are here to distinguish yourself.

God created you to be different, distinguished, SET APART.

You are not the rest.

You are here and you were made to be DISTINCT!

Looking through all that I’ve created and fine tuning my DISTINCT message over the last 4 years, growing, like the most awkward of all teenagers and figuring out what works and doesn’t work, I’ve realized these key things (oh, and I’ve only written about them a hundred times, so if you follow me, you know what’s about to follow!).

Here’s my SUMMARY of the last 4 years – lessons learned from myself to myself:

  • Don’t Follow The Crowd.
  • Don’t Follow Too Many Gurus – it will confuse you at some point – pick a couple.
  • Don’t Take Business Advice From People Who Don’t Have Businesses.
  • Don’t Take Business Advice From Men in General (Men have their own unique way of doing things. Just different – not good or bad – but not good for my business. There are very few men that I would allow to speak into my professional or personal life.)
  • Do share your message until people get sick of it and unfollow you. The right people will always stick around and those are the people you want.
  • Do stand for what you know in your heart to be right.
  • Follow your GUT – it seriously never steers you wrong.
  • The “haters” are usually the people closest to you and a few random people who will email you and let you know and post it on your Facebook page.
  • If you have a dream big enough, don’t let the people closest to you talk you out of it and don’t let their 2 cents penetrate your energy field.
  • It’s no one’s job to have your back – it’s your job.
  • It’s no one’s job to support you – it’s your job.
  • It’s no one’s job to believe in your dream – it’s your job.
  • It’s no one’s job to boost your self-esteem – it’s your job.
  • It’s no one’s job to fulfill your needs – it’s your job.
  • It’s no one’s job to love you – it’s your job. (If they love you – bonus!)
  • No one else will believe in your vision, dream or business like you do – so don’t expect that of your team, staff, employees, clients, etc. They have their own dreams & goals to deal with. Be compassionate.
  • Be consistent & persistent in sharing your work/message.
  • You have to ALWAYS be selling.
  • Selling never stops – when it stops, so does your business.
  • Sales & Marketing will always be the most important department in your business that will provide jobs for other people. Without sales, other people don’t have jobs. Don’t diss the sales.
  • It’s your job to sell to others. You are actually doing a disservice not to sell to others!
  • Believe in what you are selling. If you can’t – don’t sell it and you are selling yourself short! #boom
  • Bring the energy. It will only work if you put all your energy behind it.
  • Words matter – but more importantly – the energy behind the words matter more.
  • Confidence. Confidence. Confidence. Get it. Keep it.
  • A closed mind is necessary most of the time – stay focused. Fewer rabbit holes to trip over.
  • Only care about what you think of yourself – not what ANYONE else on the planet thinks of you. (Lisa, keep remembering that one!)
  • Anoint & Appoint yourself the LEADER. If you want followers, you need to lead.
  • Leadership is not waiting around to be one.
  • The world needs more LEADERS and people who will hold themselves out as such. Followers are in ample supply.
  • Do daily messaging. Again. Keep sharing your stuff with purpose.
  • Elevate.
  • Evoke not Provoke.
  • Consistent Daily Sales Activities. Without Fail.
  • Have absolute clarity.
  • Ask for help.
  • Don’t seek validation. You don’t need it.
  • Survey’s are only useful for the people who are lost and aren’t doing their purpose work. Feedback is not necessary when you have a message or when you know you’ve done your best. If we all listened to the feedback, opinions, the peanut gallery – 24/7 – humanity would not be where it is today, and we probably wouldn’t even have electricity or lightbulbs. Stop asking for everyone’s opinion. Again – yours is the only one that matters. Your failures are yours to learn. In business, same thing. If the customer doesn’t like the work that you do, and you know you’ve done your best, LET THEM GO! Refund them their money and send them on their way.
  • Take time to breath and tune in to your higher power and what you know is the next step for you.
  • Don’t gossip. It will bite you in the ass. I learned that in high school – it’s served me well. Only speak highly of people.
  • Get good at delayed gratification. I’m the queen of this and would probably attribute this to why I haven’t quit – when so many people in my life have told me so many times to get a “nice cozy job”.
  • Learn that delayed gratification leads to the best feeling on the planet – feeling proud of yourself – which also leads to confidence.
  • SPEND YOUR SOUL. FEEL SPENT by the end of the day and that means you gave it your best shot. There’s a difference between Spent and Tired. Tired is when you aren’t living your life with purpose and taking steps to fulfilling your dreams. Spent is when you laid it all out, let it all hang out, jumped off the cliff, and you still don’t know if you landed it or not. It’s an adrenaline high. That is spent. Tired is for people not stepping into their power. Spent is for leaders, the soul-shakers.

And FINALLY, There’s 2 things that I would recommend to any person on the planet.

If you want to grow yourself to become the best version of yourself, start a business or publish a book.

BOTH will confront every cell in your body and make you evaluate your life in a PUBLIC way.


Publishing a book and starting a business will challenge you like nothing else will because you have to face yourself – and even more scary – you have to face your dreams and find that big enough WHY to pull you forward.

So kudos to all my people who have CHOSEN this as their life’s work (and to be fair, it probably chose you first.)

Many won’t take the challenge – because, well, it’s too hard and honestly, it sucks much of the time.

But for the people who are really here to bring a vision into reality, I am high-fiving you and hugging you at the same time, because I know it’s not easy.

But it’s worth it to put it all out there! Whatever your art.

And it’s definitely worth it when you, daily, moment-by-moment….

Live Your Legacy.

xx L